1.In a quarrel I start with "you always" or "you never"
2.I talk not about the act but about what kind of person my partner is
3.I bring up old stories to strengthen my case
4.I roll my eyes or smirk while my partner is speaking
5.A sneer or a "you really are…" slips out of me in a quarrel
6.At such moments I feel I am the more sensible one
7.My first move against a complaint is to explain why it is not my fault
8.I answer with a counter-reproach: "and you yourself…"
9.Proving I am right matters to me more than understanding the complaint
10.I go quiet and stop answering
11.I leave for another room or into my phone in the middle of it
12.I put off a difficult conversation until it is forgotten
13.Mid-quarrel I can say: "wait, this is going the wrong way"
14.We know how to take a break and come back to it later
15.After a quarrel we talk through what that was
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